So i thought through experience this topic is a hard one to accept..but its necessary. If problems arise in relationships, they need to be talked about.
The most uncomfortable conversations make the strongest relationships. Strong, loving relationships dont just happen to everyone. If your lucky enough yea you have a relationship like that..most people arent that lucky. Even if you have that kind of relationship there will come a time (or two, or three, or a million) where you need to have those awkward, uncomfortable conversations. No matter who is in the relationship those kinds of conversations are inevetiable…just as arguments are. Its the ups and downs of love. If love were so easy, everyone would be married. But obviously, everyone is not set out to be in love because of those conversations (well, that and they could be assholes). But you will be able to (eventually) talk about anything and everything if you just open up to eachother.
If something is bothering you, just tell your significant other your feelings without getting mad. If you get mad/yell they will automatically get defensive or ignore you. If you talk calmly they will more than likely listen to you and youll both be happy in the end. Then you can, whenever something bothers you (whether its you or the other), youll have someone who you trust to tell anything to. The first conversation will be weird. I feel that the “you screwed up” conversations are so awkward because two people share an extra “bond” that sometimes might make people unwilling (or at least less willing) to share personal things...they are afraid that they are going to say something that will scare their loved one away. In all honesty, if what you say to them scares them away, they dont deserve to be with you.
A boyfriend or girlfriend should always be willing to compromise in order to make their significant other happy…to an extent. You dont want them to do something that they absolutely hate to make you happy. Love is a give/take kind of thing...again unless your lucky enough to find your “perfect mate” (which happens probably once in a million. sorry everyone.)
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